Wednesday, May 16, 2012

In Honor of International Day Against Homophobia


Hop Against Homophobia is an attempt by over 250 MM authors, reviewers and publishers to stand together and create awareness of homophobia. Below is a personal story I'd like to share to honor this day.



As a young girl, I had always looked down upon discriminating against someone for being something they couldn't control, like: black, female, handicapped or gay. Discrimination had always been something I stood against. I think it had something to do with me being an African American female, and understanding the bumpy road we travelled through America's history to present day.  

I raised my two girls to respect people for who they are and to only judge how people treat others including my girls themselves.

So, you can imagine the shock and horror I experienced when my teenager told me she thought gays were "creepy." This attitude came about from an entry she discovered in her best friend's diary. Her friend apparently wrote about a crush she had on my daughter and it freaked her out.

This led to a lengthy argument conversation about homosexuality. My concerns were that she would lose a good friend over a secret she shouldn't have even known. She admits her friend hadn't tried anything inappropriate, her friend had never acted differently or weird around her, but finding out the secret was enough to keep my daughter from wanting to be around her friend anymore.

It saddened me. It was an insignificant reason to lose a friend over, I thought.

However, after talking with my daughter some more, I've come to realize how young and innocent her mind really is. She's just afraid of what she doesn't understand. No one can tell her what to think or how to feel. Besides, it took a few days for her initial shock to wear off and now her and her friend are the best friends they always were. Hopefully, with time and experience she will grow up to be the more tolerant, understanding, and compassionate woman I'm raising her to be.

Maybe she will grow to be against discriminating someone for being something they can't control. Especially when the only thing they have a hard time controlling is who they love.

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In Honor of International Day Against Homophobia, I am giving away one free PDF copy of my latest MM & MMF erotic read, Tongue Tied, to one lucky commenter.
Tongue Tied

Ever since that little finger licking slipup during their "double dating" session, Dorian's tongue has been on Ryan's mind. If only Ryan had the courage to tell his friend what's been nagging at him. Maybe Dorian could help him verbalize what he so desperately wants. Maybe Dorian will give him even more than he asks for. 

All you have to do to enter for a chance to win is leave a comment on this post with your email, and a winner will be randomly chosen. The winner will be notified via email on May 20th when the contest ends. Entrants must be 18 years or older.

There are over 250 other sites participating in Hop Against Homophobia 2012, so be sure to check them out here: http://hopagainsthomophobia.blogspot.com.

15 comments:

  1. Thanks for your post. As a mom myself I wonder what I'm going to do if my child comes to me with something like this. I appreciate you bringing that aspect of it out.

    cojazzchick AT yahoo DOT com

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  2. I believe love can triumph over hate and that it always will!

    Thanks for participating in the blog hop.

    kimberlyFDR@yahoo.com

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  3. thank you for sharing this with us today. I think this is an important cause that needs the spotlight shining on it.

    musings-of-a-bookworm@hotmail.co.uk

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  4. Thank you for sharing your story and the story of your daughter and her friend. I'm glad they're still best friends too.

    andreagrendahl AT gmail DOT com

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  5. I appreciate all the comments.Thanks for stopping by! Good luck! :-)

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  6. Wow, fear - it is a bitch!
    I grew up thinking we were all equals, but I'm sure if I had actually brought home the gorgeous African-American I havd met at a Screenwriting Expo, mu Catholic mum would have fainted, in spite of her teachings... unfortunately it didn't work out.
    And it took me 30+ years to accept the fact that I'm "different" and I shouldn't waste any more time trying to fit in (no, I'm not GLBT, but I AM different).
    I'm sure your daughter will grow up a better person! :-)
    Barb
    creativebarbwire at gmail dot com

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  7. Thank you so much for participating in the hop. I hope that this helps to spread the word and that one day a hop like this will no longer be needed. I have shown many of the post to my nieces and nephews. We recently have been discussing how damaging bullying is and how innocent remarks can make you be seen as being a bully. One of the things that makes me mad is when I hear...you're so gay... pisses me off. These post have helped them already. I heard my nephew stand up to someone that called someone else a hurtful name... I was so proud. Thank you all for helping by sharing hurtful and/sad memories and your personal views/message.
    I pray one day for equality for EVERYONE not just some.
    forettarose@yahoo.com

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  8. Thanks for participating for this wonderful cause of awareness…I teach high schoolers and this is a topic that we discuss at length. I just want them to be aware and know that they have the power to change the world!
    Yvette
    yratpatrol@aol.com

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  9. Leslie, great post, our daughter is lucky you are her mother :-)

    I just wanted to say “Thank You” to you and to everyone for letting me be included in your Hop Against Homophobia. I am afraid I am not a talented m/m fiction writer like yourself but I am an avid reader of it.

    Actually when you are a straight girl who writes gay porn for an adult studio it is hard to fit in anywhere so I really appreciated how warmly I was welcomed into your group.
    http://shadowsterling.blogspot.com/2012/04/studio-i-write-for.html

    But this is a cause I feel strongly about and I wanted to let you know I appreciate the opportunity to be included.

    Shadow Sterling

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  10. that was an awesome post and I am glad they are still best friends. Thank you for participating and sharing.

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    1. forgot my email addy:

      normanielsen@bigpond.com

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  11. The fact that they're still best friends means you definitely did something right. I think as long as you keep having frank discussions with her and the more she hangs out with her friend, things will work out.

    From the sounds of it, you're a totally awesome mom. :)

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  12. Thank you for sharing your story. I am glad that your daughter still retains her friend with your good advice and understanding.

    lmbrownauthor at gmail dot com

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  13. Thanks for participating in the HOP.

    gisu29(at)gmail(dot)com

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  14. Thanks for participating and for commenting, everyone! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate all the support.

    The winner, KimberlyFDR, has been notified. Congrats!

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